Extending the olive branch

[crowdog66]

Remember my last entry, about a dust-up over on WiccanTogether.com? Well, this is how I went about extending the olive branch to the person I'd apparently offended:

*sigh*

I am not "badgering" you. I am on occasion disagreeing with you. There's a BIG difference.

I'm sorry if disagreement distresses you. In the future, I will try to phrase my discourse in the most civil way possible to alleviate, as much as possible, your discomfort. And I apologize for any offense and/or distress I have inadvertently caused you. But when I disagree with something you (or anyone else) says, I will speak up about it. That's the nature of forums like WT -- you're going to get a LOT of different opinions.

Hopefully that does the trick.

EDITED TO ADD: Awwwww, blackcrow deleted my comment on his profile page! How brazenly cowardly cute! Wanna bet that my comment on rightwitch's page disappears as well?

Comments

[silverjackal.livejournal.com]

Oh, but crowdog66, you *can't* be reasonable. If you're not persecuting them then you're taking away their speshul...

(Preemptively, yes, I'm in an extremely short temper today, myself. Life does not go smooth, work towers endlessly before me, I have the creeping death (just flu, *again* thank you colleagues/members of the public), and I've had it with people's silliness, both in RL and online. That's not directed at you, of course, but at the people you're currently dealing with. Oh, how I would love to have a real, face to face conversation with them. I'd be very polite, but I still suspect I'd make them cry. Or be very angry. Or both.)

Edited to add: I just went and actually looked at rightwitch's profile. 43? Seriously? :D Such a fragile flower for her age. Not that I'm making a crack about her age, of course other than in reverse. Most people outgrow such hypersensitivity to their opinions in secondary school. She's also older than I by a fair piece, and I consequently find her attitude surprsing. I've certainly been questioned, contradicted, and told I'm wrong more times than I can count, so how has she gone this long without learning to cope with it -- and maybe learn from it?

[elaryn.livejournal.com]

I can be a little hyper-sensitive at 48, but then again I have "issues" (Asperger's, social phobia, depression). And I've gotten MUCH better at stepping back and not taking things personally since I have realised that I do, in fact, have "issues." ;-)

[silverjackal.livejournal.com]

You obviously have gotten better, then, because I've never known you to be other than sensible, level headed, and kind.

Crowdog66 provided links to both the discussion that precipitated this bit of muck flinging and her profile. Have you read both? And if so, would you have experienced a similar reaction had someone done the same to you (before you learned your coping skills)? Because if the lady suffers from Asperger's, then I have been unfair to her -- other than observing that she obviously needs to learn the same coping methods that others have.

[semyaza.livejournal.com]

It's more than either rightwitch or blackcrow deserves. If rightwitch wants to know what condescension really is, she ought to read blackcrow's comment on your profile page.

The dust-up was created by rightwitch who, dare I say it, has marshmallow for brains.

[elaryn.livejournal.com]

Don't let the morons grind you down. You tried...a lot more than I would have, I confess. I truly admire your patience. *big hugs...just "because"*